The art of not giving a F**K!

I recently posted on my Instagram page a photo with the caption “the art of not giving a fuck".

I want to explore that caption further. I recently read "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson (huge thanks to him). It was truly enlightening for me about whom and what to care about in life. Personally, I often prioritize others excessively, putting their needs before my own. Sometimes, I feel like a superhero meant to care about everyone and everything. However, in doing so, I lost touch with myself—I lost Amanda. I became so consumed with others' issues that I neglected my own well-being. I've mentioned this before and have often talked in past posts about being kind to oneself and expressing gratitude towards oneself, which I believe in. But after reading Mark's book, I've realized I need to be selective about what I care about. This doesn't mean I'll stop caring about everything, but rather, I'll choose what truly matters. When we adopt others' problems as our own, it makes no sense. Why take on someone else's issue when it's not your fault? We must learn to take responsibility for our own actions in response to a problem. For instance, if a good friend breaks up with her boyfriend, you can't solve it for her because it's not your fault. However, you can support her with encouraging words or a fun night out. We often get so involved in others' problems that we lose ourselves and then get frustrated with ourselves and the person involved. It sounds like madness to me! So, don't care too much :) Many people also obsess over "status." Society constantly tells us we need to be rich, attractive, thin, smart, funny, etc. We strive for the best job, the most money, the fanciest car, the biggest house. But why does this matter so much? Why can't they just not care? There are likely many reasons, but ultimately, who cares! Of course, we all want nice things, which I understand, but we must stop being greedy. We should create happiness for ourselves in this chaotic world. We don't need the fanciest of things; we need more actions than possessions. Share more love, appreciate people more, and create a space you enjoy so you can spread positivity to others. Not caring too much is very liberating; it can relieve a lot of stress, making you feel better!

We will always have people we love and care about, but sometimes we need to let go a bit and take care of ourselves. Once we feel lighter, we are able to help that person with their problem. I am sure there might be a lot of you who already don't give a fuck, and kudos to you, keep up the good work. It is a practice, though. You don’t just wake up one day and be like, "Okay, I am not giving a fuck today!" You have to make it a part of your practice daily, whether you write it down or sit with it for a few minutes. Make it a part of your journey, the one you created for yourself. There will be times when you fail at this, believe me, I have! I could write a lot of blogs about how many times I have failed. Which is okay, because failure is a good thing. It can teach you that you are human and you are going to make mistakes from which you will learn. Let's help each other by helping ourselves by not giving a fuck ;)

MUCH LOVE

XOXO